Notes from Fireside by President Haynie

Parenting requirements for the current climate – Allen D. Haynie, 10/10
1. Purify ourselves – has to be parenting that is a product of revelation.

2. Pray longer and harder for our children – counsel with God,
2 Ne. 33:3: For I pray continually for them by day, and mine eyes water my pillow by night, because of them; and I cry unto my God in faith, and I know that he will hear my cry.

3. Be sure that they learn and understand the true doctrines of the kingdom (the reason we have FHE and youth activities). Alma taught that God gave Adam and Eve commandments after giving them the doctrine. Also, Alma 31: 5: And now, as the preaching of the word had a great tendency to lead the people to do that which was just—yea, it had had more powerful effect upon the minds of the people than the sword, or anything else, which had happened unto them—therefore Alma thought it was expedient that they should try the virtue of the word of God.

4. Honor the Sabbath Day = power; it’s not a day for sports or shopping. Don’t work or play so hard on Friday and Saturday night that you have to sleep all day on Sunday either. We should do something on Sunday, appropriate things.

5. Don’t provide them with access to porn or any inappropriate matter; control time and access on the internet, no R rated movies and limit PG-13, don’t be a stranger to children’s FaceBook or texts, and consider sleepovers with caution. No computers in kid’s rooms; a computer in a boy’s room will lead to trouble.

6. Only allow safe dating at 16. Their daughter’s early boyfriends have wondered if he didn’t like them, but they have chosen to keep the early boyfriends at a distance as bringing them into the family circle will only intensify the couple’s feelings for each other.

7. Emphasis on modesty in dress – use doctrine to help them understand why, not just giving rules and asking obedience.
D&C 43:8-10 has been taught at three recent training meetings he has been to. It must be important for us right now:
8: And now, behold, I give unto you a commandment, that when ye are assembled together ye shall instruct and edify each other, that ye may know how to act and direct my church, how to act upon the points of my law and commandments, which I have given.
9: And thus ye shall become instructed in the law of my church, and be sanctified by that which ye have received, and ye shall bind yourselves to act in all holiness before me—
10: That inasmuch as ye do this, glory shall be added to the kingdom which ye have received. Inasmuch as ye do it not, it shall be taken, even that which ye have received.